Go Program

LESSON 1: Character

for each of the 7 habits match up one strong and one poor character describers

The 7 Habits

1) Be Proactive D c

2) Begin With the End in Mind G b

3)Put First Things First C g

4) Think Win-Win B d

5)Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood F e

6)Synergize A f

7)Sharpen the Saw E a

Strong Character Describers

A. You value creative cooperation, differences in others, and teamwork. You know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.

B. You see life as an "all-you-can-eat-buffet." Your spirit of cooperation is always looking out for others making sure that they can get what they want too.

C. You get the right things done and walk your talk.

D. You choose your response to what happens around you and take responsibility for your life.

E. You are continually improving yourself and enhancing your life in all areas.

F. You are nonjudgmental and intent on learning the needs and concerns of others.

G. You have a deep sense of personal meaning and are living out your personal mission each day.

Poor Character Describers

a. "Pass the corn chips!" You have lost the cutting edge you once had and have fallen back and lost interest in any self-improvement.

b. "Live and let live!" You live your life based on society's values and "what goes" instead of putting in the time to uncover your personal mission.

c. "It's not my fault!" You are the eternal victim-nothing is ever your fault. You are waiting for good things to come your way. Your life is what others make it.

d. "Three people matter: me, myself, and I" You see life as a zero-sum game. You are defensive and are only looking out for "number 1."

e. "I'll tell you what to do!" Since you know what people are saying only seconds after they start talking, you help them with your good experienced advice.

f. "It's my way or the highway!" You try to clone people into your own way of thinking and just want to see your ideas, good or bad, done.

g. "Just let me get this done!" You are constantly in crisis mode, doing things at the last minute and letting people and activities really important to you fade away as you try to get urgent things done.

Go Family Reflections:

If someone were to describe your family character, what would he or she say? What character qualities are high on your family list?

He/She would say that my family is respectful to each other and elders. For example, we say thank you. All of us are very organized and like to keep our house clean. We always help each other by volunteering to do the chores when the others are busy. We assist others when they ask or look like they need help. My family is honest to each other. We never keep secrets from family members. The three of us are responsible too. We handle other people's belongings that we borrowed with care, so we won't lose it and can return it in good condition. The qualities that are high on my family list are being respectful, helpful, honest, and responsible.

LESSON 2: Goals

Smart is an acronym for Specific, measurable, action oriented, reasonable, timely.

My Goals:

I have many goals that I want to achieve. My short term goals are easier to suceed, so I'll talk about them first. I want to get straight A's in my report card this year. I wish to improve my time to 13min for the Langara Run. I want to be athletic and get more involved at school because I wish to be more socialized. This leads to the goal that I want to make all kinds of different friends. If I don't talk to people, there's no way I can make new friends. The goals that I wish to keep every year are to be organized and continue to complete my homework on time. My long term goals are harder to accomplish, but I will try to reach at the end. I want to get into pre IB and IB and go to the University of Washington. I hope to become a number one athlete because I like sports and competition. I would never let anyone go ahead of me without trying to pass them first. Those are all of my different kinds of goals and I hope to fulfill them all.

Specific - be specific about exactly what I want to suceed on

Measurable - have goals that I can actually measure my achievement

Action oriented - always be active and get involved

Reasonable - have goals that can be accomplished, like trying to finish Langara Run within 13min is a realistic goal for me

Timely - take my time on whatever I'm doing, so I can show my best effort

My Smart goal:

My Smart goal is to think SMART whatever I do and wherever I go. That way I can be successful.

If you're not sure where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.

specific, measurable, action oriented, reasonable, timely.

Go Family Reflections:

What are your family goals? Is there anything you would like to accomplish together?

Everybody in my family have different personal goals. I want to be successful at school and my parents want to be helpful in the community. These goals will never come together to become goals for all three of us. But there are still a few goals that we want to achieve as a family. We want to try our best to prevent the world from being destroyed and its natural resources from diminishing. My family is trying to conserve water and save electricity. We are carpooling and taking the bus to work and school to prevent more pollution, causing Global Warming. That's our family's biggest goal and I hope our efforts can make a difference.

LESSON 3: Principles

Create a scene, commercial, role play, poem, or song that best illustrates one of the following principle statements.
1) If you don't do what you say, people won't trust you.
2) If you don't exercise, your body will not be as strong.

3) If you prepare, quality will be better.
4) If you short-change process, the end result will be less than the best.
5) If you feel understood, you will try to understand others.
6) If others help you succeed, you will help them succeed.

I picked: 2) If you don't exercise, your body will not be as strong.

I have created a song.

Your body needs exercise to keep it strong. Do whichever sport you desire. Fifteen minutes a day is what your body needs. Just follow those simple steps and your body will be healthy.
Chorus:
Badminton, Soccer, Swimming, or Basketball.
Just pick one. It's all up to you to keep your body happy.
Exercising is relaxing. It's part of the fun.
Just try a sport and you'll have a blast. So exercise and you'll do fine.
Chorus

Go Family Reflections:

Principles are timeless and lead to success. What principles does your family live by?

My family likes to live by the principles "honesty", "competitive", and "proactive". We never keep secrets from each other and are honest to others too. All of us are loyal to people, so we can make a lot of friends. Being loyal also makes people happy. The three of us are very competitive. We don't like to see others beat us in any kind of competition. Lastly, my family is proactive, always looking out for others. We think before we speak or take an action, so we won't hurt anyone's feelings. This allows us to get along with everyone.

Lesson 4: POV

PART A
You are riding your bike on the outskirts of town, down a quiet country road. There's a steep hill along the road that you hate to climb but love to coast down. Just as you reach the top, you see a small group of children-they're no more than six or seven years old-huddled by the side of the road. You see them notice you, so you're sure they'll stay out of your way as you zoom down the hill.

1) What feelings do you have, or think you might have, after reading Part A?

I feel worry-free because I wouldn't have to worry about the little kids getting run over by my bike. On the other hand, I feel kind of uncomfortable because it indicates that little kids think big kids are bullies, so they will try to get out of their way. I think this concept should change. What makes bigger and older kids so scary and bossy? They just act and look that way, but inside they are not so tough.

2) What would you say in this situation?

In this kind of situation, I would go up to the little kids and just try to tell them that they shouldn't be scared of big kids anymore because they're not as scary and tough as they look. In fact, most of them are quite friendly.

Part B
You start into your coast, picking up speed, and everything is going along great until you pass the group of children. All of a sudden, a rocks comes sailing through the air and hits you on the side of your head! You can't believe it-one of those kids has pitched a rock at you at a moment when you could easily have lost your balance and wrecked at high speed. After stopping and talking to the kids you find out that one of them is in the ditch at the side of the road with a serious injury and needs to go to the hospital, they had been trying to get someone to stop, and the only way to get your attention was to throw the rock.

1) What feelings do you have, or think you might have, after reading Part B?

I feel bad for the kids because their friend is in a ditch and badly hurt. Poor kid! But I think they shouldn't have tried to get my attention by throwing a rock because they could have hurt me as well and then they wouldn't be able to get any help. The kids could have just yelled to get my attention instead of doing something dangerous like that. I feel very sorry for the kid, but on the other hand, I feel kind of curious about how the kid fell in the ditch. Maybe he/she was being very naughty or they were having a fight and got pushed into it. So sad!!!

2) What would you say in this situation?

I would first ask them how it happened. After I find out about the incident, I would tell them that it's unsafe to throw a rock at people on bikes even if it's to get help in an emergency. It's very dangerous. But if I wasn't on a bike, it would be okay because it's an emergency. Then I would try to take the kid out of the ditch and if he/she is badly injured, I would bring them to the hospital and tell his/her parents.

Family Reflections:
Your Point of View (POW): Talk about a family situation in which someone had a limited POV, and discuss what led to the POV shift.

I used to be very shy and rarely speak in class. One day, my parents talked to me about being more outgoing. As a family, we discussed it. I realized this was not right. By doing this, I couldn't make many friends or be very noticed. At the end, I decided to change. I started to speak out and share my ideas with the class no matter if it was right or wrong. I wasn't scared of talking to new people anymore because I had faith in myself. Before I knew it, I became quite talkative, but there are still some little problems I need to fix. I am still working on it. Now in highschool to keep up the great efforts, I am getting more involved and making a whole load of new friends who are all very friendly. I guess changing a POV is not so hard and makes me feel good about myself.

LESSON 5: EBA Log

Use the EBA Log to record your actions and words with specific people over the next week...(This isn't a scorecard, only a way to help you gain an awareness of your deposits and withdrawals.)

Person:Daisy

On a scale of –10 to +10, mark where you think you fall in terms of an Emotional Bank Account balance with this person.

EBA balance with Daisy: +8

Action	Withdrawal	Deposit
gave her treats	it was sour	she likes candy
i am her partner for gym	sometimes i mess up on sports like volleyball	she always has a companion
i help her with things that she gets stumped on	sometimes i am not sure of the answer either	she gets the answer and understands my explanation
i wait for her when she needs to do something	sometimes i leave without noticing she's not with me	she is not alone
i go with her to do things	but sometimes i have other things planned	she will have company
i hang out with her, play and joke around	sometimes i am not proactive and make her mad	she always has friends by her side

Person:Bryanna

On a scale of –10 to +10, mark where you think you fall in terms of an Emotional Bank Account balance with this person.

EBA balance with Bryanna:+5

Action

Withdrawal

Deposit

share snacks with her

sometimes I bring things she doesn't like

makes her happy

talk about entertaining thing like shopping

she can't go to Seattle very often, so sometimes she becomes depressed

share our opinions and things we bought

play games like tag

i am too tricky to catch

she enjoys it because she is very hyper

I accompany her to places

some things she still likes to keep a secret

she likes company going to places

I like joke around

it annoys her sometimes

she thinks i'm humourous

i help her do things like watch her stuff

sometimes i tend to get distracted

that way her belongings won't be taken when she is away

Person:Joyce

On a scale of –10 to +10, mark where you think you fall in terms of an Emotional Bank Account balance with this person.

EBA balance with Joyce: +7

Action	Withdrawal	Deposit
share tasty things with her	she can't eat it all	she likes it
give her advice and opinions to things	sometimes i don't have good ones or run out of them	she likes them and takes it in
have conversations with her	sometimes i say things that irritate her	talking with people entertains her
make jokes	not all the time they are funny	she laughs and thinks it's funny
i assist her with problems	sometimes i didn't finish it either	helps her complete the assignment
i promise to keep her secrets	sometimes i give out little hints to others by accident	the secret is still kept secret

Family Reflection:

What are your EBA's like with your family members? Healthy? Bankrupt? What small acts of kindness can you do to start making some deposits for each other?

The EBA's with my family members are healthy. We rarely argue. We give good advice and opinions to each other. Most of the time, we talk about things in a calm way and discuss things before accusing others or coming to a conclusion, so we wouldn't blame others when they are actually innocent. There are many small acts of kindness that I can do to start making some deposits for each other. I can wash the dishes for a change. I can volunteer to do the laundry. I will tidy my room once in a while. These are some of the acts of kindness I can think of right now. There probably are much more that I can do to make deposits.

LESSON 6: Be Proactive

People are proactive when they do not blame other things or people for what happens to them. Reactive people try to hold other people or things responsible for their behavior. Read the examples below and explain why you think they are proactive or reactive.

Situation #1

Leilani hadn't done the assigned reading for her English class, so when the due date for a book review on the reading came around, she had no report to turn in. Instead of telling her teacher that there hadn't been enough time given for the assignment, she thought about all of the TV she'd watched over the weekend. She told the teacher she hadn't made good use of her time and asked if she could turn in the paper the next day for a late grade.

How was Leilani proactive or reactive?

Leilani was proactive because she didn't take blame of what she did on others. She realized it was her fault that she watched too much TV and didn't get enought time to finish the assignment. Instead of making up excuses, she told the teacher that she hadn't made good use of her time, so she needed an extra day to turn it in. She didn't mind getting a late grade because she knew it was she who caused this to happen. She is taking responsibility for what she did, so that's why I conclude she was being proactive.

Situation #2

Karl and his friends had been waiting anxiously for the school holiday because they had planned to go rollerblading on the sidewalks of a nearby college campus. When he saw it raining hard the morning they were set to go, he felt so angry that the weather was bad that he told his friends he just didn't feel like doing anything. He staying inside all day and complained to his family about his rotten luck.

How was Karl proactive or reactive?

Karl was being reactive. He planned on going rollerblading with his friends, but it was raining that day. He lied to his friends that he didn't want to do anything. Actually, he was just angry. He blamed his anger on other things. Karl ended up complaining to his family about his rotten luck. I don't think he should complain to his family because they had nothing to do with it. In a way, he was trying to transfer the responsibility to his family. Instead of lying to his friends and accusing to his family, he could have just rescheduled the day.

Situation #3

Brittany felt bad when she didn't get a part in the school play. But after she thought about it for a few minutes, she realized that the biggest reason she'd gone for a part was that she wanted to be involved in the production, so she got a job with the stage crew. She helped paint the sets and worked the lights during the play, and by the time the production was over, she felt she'd had as much fun, if not more fun, being backstage as she would have had with an onstage role.

How was Brittany proactive or reactive?

Brittany was being very proactive. Although she didn't get a part in the school play, she didn't find fault with the judges. She thought about the main reason she wanted to get a part. It was to be in the production, so she decided to be a stage crew backstage. She found it just as fun or maybe even more fun than being on stage. Brittany thought about what she actually wanted. She realized if she didn't get a part in the play, she could still be part of the production. That is what she wanted, so she did something else in the production. She was a stage crew.

Family Reflections:

At home, when is your family highly reactive? How can you help each other be more proactive?

My family is proactive most of the time. But once in a while, we do become reactive. Sometimes when we get into arguments, we tend to blame each other. First of all, I think we should never argue (not even once in a while) because we are a family. We could be more proactive by looking back and figuring out what happened and how it all started, in a calm way. Then the problem would be solved in a jiffy and nobody would get mad. Sometimes my family becomes lazy and we tell each other to do the chores, but nobody wants to take it. I think a more proactive way would be to take turns and volunteer to do the chores because every household has work that needs to be done. Except for those reactive times, my family is proactive and we cooperate, so there wouldn't be any bickering.

LESSON 7: Proactive Language

Scenario A
You overhear your best friend bad-mouthing you in front of a group. She doesn't know you overheard the conversation. Just five minutes ago, this same friend was sweet-talking you to your face. You feel hurt and betrayed.

If you were reactive, what might you say?
If I was reactive, I might have said "You are such a faker." "I thought you were my best friend." "I never knew you were such a lier." "If you like your other friends so much, just go with them."

If you were proactive, what would you say?
If I was proactive, I would have calmly went up to my best friend and said "I just overheard you. Is what you said true? I would like to know the truth please. If you are still my best friend, please stop bad-mouthing about me, especially behind other people's back. I don't like. Next time, instead of talking behind my back, just tell me what you don't like about me, so I can fix it."

Scenario B
Your mother has grounded you for the rest of the month because you didn't come home from a friend's sleep-over party by the time you said you would. You feel hurt, not only because she doesn't seem to be listening to your reasons for being late, but also because she hasn't really been around for you to talk to much lately.

If you were reactive, what might you say?
I I were reactive, I would have said "You didn't even listen to my reasons yet. It's not fair. I am innocent. In fact, you haven't been paying attention to me at all lately."

If you were proactive, what would you say?
If I were proactive, I would have said "I know I was wrong for not keeping my promise. If I was going to be late, I should have called home to tell you. This won't happen next time. I deserve to be grounded. Thank you for teaching me a lesson."

It's not what happens to you in life, it's what you do about it. -W. Mitchell

Family Reflections:

Listen this week as a family, and catch each other using reactive language. Be proactive! Talk the talk of someone with self-control.

Reactive language: "I can't do it. I am going to fail. I hate homework. This is so hard. Going to work is so annoying. You're not doing anything right."

Proactive language: "I can do it. I will succeed. This is not that bad. Homework helps me learn. Going to work earns us money. Try again. You'll get the hang of it."

L E S S O N 8 : Initiative and Influence

1. Is there an area in your life you are unhappy about or frustrated by-classes, a subject, friends, family, work?

Nope. Everything is excellent! Awesome family and friends and a great life.

2. Are you unhappy about or frustrated by? For example, do you feel powerless, hopeless, or used? Describe the situation.

Not at all. My family is very caring towards each other and my friends are very helpful and take my feelings into consideration.

3. Have you been responding? What do you do? What is your attitude?

I don't have any problems with my family, friends, or my life. There are no situations where I need to respond.

4. Other (more proactive) ways might you respond to this situation?

Nope. Don't have situations like this.

5. This situation comes up during the week, remember to take a moment and choose your response. Set up an action plan with steps on how to change your reactive reaction to one where you are more in control and feeling better about the situation.

Okay, but I don't think that's going to happen. At least I hope it won't. I'm glad that I don't have any problems with life. It feels so good to be happy with what I have right now such as family, friends, etc.

Family Reflections:

Take initiative. Make "What can I do about this?" your question of the month. Get your family into "influence and initiative" mode.

I get bad marks on tests. "What can I do about this?" Study harder.

I am not very good at drawing. "What can I do about this?" Practice more.

I hate milk. "What can I do about this?" Keep drinking it because it is good for the bones and growth.

I am a messy person. "What can I do about this?" Clean up after myself.

My mom: I love seafood. "What can I do about this?" Continue to eat it because it's good for you.

My dad: Going to work makes me tired. "What can I do about this?" Take a day off.

LESSON 9: The Pause Button

1)Get yourself into groups of five or six and create a scene, commercial, role play, poem or song that best illustrates the ideas behind The Pause Button

One day, Mark went to school and saw Maria, his worst enemy, heading his way. Mark treated Maria as an enemy just because she was a very popular girl. Today he was in an extra good mood and wanted to achieve a goal of being proactive to everyone. Instead of ignoring Maria, he went up to her and paused himself to think about how he could be proactive. He used to always say "Ew..What an ugly green shirt you wore today." Very reactive, right? Must have hurt Maria's feelings. But today Mark said something different "I like your pink shirt. It matches with your jeans." This made Maria happy and Mark felt extra good. From that moment, he started to be proactive and he was the jolliest kid at school.

2)Write in your journal about a quote by Theodore Rossevelt

A vote is like a rifle; its usefulness depends upon the character of the user. - Theodore Roosevelt.

I think this is very true. Votes are meant for you to pick the person you think deserves the position in Parliament or whatever you might be voting for. I think the modern votes are becoming more of favouritism. People are casting their ballots for members who are their friends or who they like or know. This is not how it was meant to be. The person you pick might not do a very good job if elected for the position. If we have an election for a new prime minister, we are supposed to pick the member we think best fits for the position and will represent us well. There shouldn't be any other exceptions. Therefore, the people who want to vote for the ones they favour, shouldn't really participate in the election because by electing those people, they are going to mess up Canada. Not a very good choice!

Family Reflections:

Decide on a family code word or phrase to remind each other to count to 10 before sinking into a "reactive rant zone." Post your Press Pause phrase on your fridge.

As a family, we decided that the code word should be "stop" or "pause". We chose these two words because they remind us to freeze from whatever we are doing or saying, so we can think about it carefully. That way things are said in a calm way to prevent any reactive language. I hope we won't have to use it very often, so it will show that we are a proactive family and rarely does reactive things. In a way, I also hope to use it a lot because it shows that we think about being proactive when we start to become reactive. My family's goal is to try not to use these two words very much, so we can be proactive without knowing it. We want to be friendly to everyone!

L E S S O N 10: Vision

Visualize yourself, about a half block away, walking toward yourself. You see yourself as you would like to be one year from now.

What do you look like?
I would have long, black hair just like now. I might have grown and maybe my facial appearance might have changed. I'll be having a great life!

What things are important to you?
A lot of things. Such as...school, family, friends, and trying to improve on things because nobody is perfect. There is always going to be something for each of us to improve on.

What have you done over the past year with your life?
Plenty of things. Gotten more involved at school like joining teams and clubs. Much more socialized. Made a ton of new friends who are all very friendly and helpful. Maybe gone on a trip...

How would your friends describe the "year from now" you?
I don't know...I'll have to ask them or maybe wait until next year. They might say I've changed in the way I do things. Maybe my attitude and bad habits...who knows?

Family Reflections:

Discuss your family's future: what does it hold for you? Are you going to have the relationships that you want with each other? As a family, are you making things happen, or are you on autopilot?

I think we are going to continue being an excellent family. Sharing thing. Working together. Having fun with each other. My family is going to stick together and be happy. We are still going to try to be proactive all the time. We are making things happen, so we get what we want instead of a surprise or panicing during the last few seconds. This way, we know what's going to be happening and we can actually do something when things go wrong. There is always room for improvement!

LESSON 11: Mission

Michelangelo created his artistic masterpieces in his mind before creating them on a wall, ceiling, canvas, or stone. Henry Ford envisioned the design for the first automobile before he built it. Both of these men stepped back from life and took time to visualize what they wanted to create.

Think deeply about your life and purpose. Write a response for each of the following questions:

What are your greatest strengths?

I think my greatest strengths are the things I am good at and love to do. It could also be the things I am trying to be good at or accomplish. I love to crack math problems. Math is my favourite subject at school. There's a lot of logic to it. Mmm...mmm...math!!! I enjoy being active and doing varieties of sports. Basketball is one of them and it is awesome! I am trying out for the Bantam Girls Basketball Team. Hope I will get in! I am working on joining different clubs to achieve my goal of being socialized.

What do you deeply enjoy doing?

I mostly enjoy doing things that are relaxing. I love to read. There's plenty of knowledge in books. Books are so yummy! I like doing calm stuff like drawing and knitting. Sports is one of my biggest relaxing tools. After a hard day at school, I enjoy doing something that envolves moving around. It loosens my body and makes me feel gooood!

What things are most important to you?

My family is of number one importance on my list. They are very caring and try their best to make life fabulous. They're always the ones that I can count on. My friends are second on my list. They are of great help to me and are very aware of my feelings. My friends are super friendly and always there for me.

Family Reflections:

Discuss your collective mission as a family. If asked, how would people you know describe your family? How would you want them to describe you? What do you spend your collective family time doing or talking about? What is important to you?

People we know would say that we are polite and respectful. We care about others and their feelings. We are proactive most of the time and get along quite well. We are very truthful. This is how people would describe my family and this is also how we want them to describe us. But we are still making goals to improve on some things and trying to be proactive all the time. My family spends our collective family time talking about things we could improve on as a family. We also spend our collective family time playing around and sometimes even competing with each other at games such as sudoku. We think that making plenty of friends is very important. We treat them properly and they treat us the same. We also like to make a good reputation when we go out as a family, so no one would think we are crooks. That is what we like to do and we always want to keep it this way.

LESSON 12: Goals

Write the six most important things in your life in the boxes below.Take your time. Try to be completely honest with yourself. No one needs to know the results but yourself.

Examples: education, family, friends, knowledge, religion, art, career, health, happiness, travel, relationships, athletics, you choose.

1. Family
2. Friends
3. School
4. Sports
5. Have a great life!
6. Vacation

My #1 priority in life:
Family

How would anyone know that family is my #1 priority in life?

I often talk about them. I show that I am caring, sharing, and respectful towards them. Sometimes, I choose to spend time with my family instead of going out with my friends.

What things can I do to this week and this month to keep it #1?

I will do more of the caring, sharing, and respect. I will try to spend more time with my family. I will always keep the word "family" in mind, so they will always be my #1 priority.

Family Reflections:

Think about it: What is the essence of your family? In one phrase or in a few words, describe what you are about.

Words that describe my family: caring, sharing, respectful, and proactive.

Lesson 13: Review

No Extensions in this lesson.

Family Reflections:

As a family, look back at the previous lessons. Which topics had the most impact on your family?

As a family, we think that the "Be Proactive" lesson had the most impact on us. It taught us to always try to be proactive and never be reactive. It's not nice! The pause button is also a great help to being proactive and saying the right things after you think about it.

LESSON 14: Priorities

Planning for Improvement

What do you spend your time doing?

Fill out Column A by estimating how much time you spend each day in the various categories. Remember, your total hours must add up to 24!

After filling in Column A on your own, discuss, with a partner or in groups, where you might be able to save some time or spend it more effectively.

Finally, set time goals based on the suggestions you received.

CATEGORY

A) ACTUAL TIME USED PRESENTLY

B) TIME SUGGESTED BY MY GROUP

C) MY TIME MANAGEMENT GOAL

Sleeping/Resting

9 Hrs.

9 Hrs.

9 Hrs.

Dressing/Hygiene

30 min.

30 min.

30min.

Eating

1 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

Travel

20 min.

30min.

30min.

Classes

5 Hrs.

5 Hrs.

5 Hrs.

Extra Curricular

3 Hrs.

2 Hrs.

2 Hrs.

Work

30 min.

30min.

30 min.

Chores

10 min.

30 min.

30 min.

Appointments

30 min.

30 min.

30 min.

Study Time

2 Hrs.

2 Hrs.

2 Hrs.

Homework Time

1.5 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

Volunteering

30 min.

30 min.

30 min.

Leisure Time

1 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

1 Hrs.

TOTAL

24 Hrs

24 Hrs

24 Hrs

Family Reflections:

Sit down and discuss some things that are important to each member in your family. How can you help each other accomplish these things?

All three of us have important things to accomplish. There are many ways that we can help each other to make this possible. We could cooperate and do things that will fulfill each of our needs in order to succeed. We should definitely make goals and help each other achieve them. Practice! Practice! Practice! Ever heard of the expression, "Practice makes perfect"? Well, now you have. Team work! Work together to accomplish goals in life. After all, two men work better than one! I think these are enough to lead each other in the right directions. It's a great start to success. It takes us one step forward and a lot closer to the end.

LESSON 15: the Matrix

1) Where have you spent your time?
I have spent most of my time in quadrant 2. Most of my things become important, but not urgent because I have planned ahead and never procrastinate unless if it's absolutely necessary. I guess that wouldn't be called procrastinating then...hmm! Everybody can be in quadrant 2 no problem! They just have to make their urgent things become important by doing them beforehand. I try to finish my homework on the day I get it, so I won't have to remember what I still have to do. This would only fail to happen if I had a test to study for. The reason why I say I am in quadrant 2 because I do my most important stuff first, so they won't become urgent. If I have time, I would spent it doing things I love like reading, playing DS, etc.

1. What title goes here?
Important and Urgent "Procrastinator"
2. What title goes here?
Important, but not urgent "Prioritizer"
3. What title goes here?
Not important, but urgent "Yes Woman"
4. What title goes here?
Not important and not urgent "Slacker"

Where are the majority of your activities? How much time do they take each week? What activities could you cut back on or cut out altogether to spend more time in quadrant 2?

I spent most of my time on doing homework and studying. Another part of my time, I spend on sleeping (9 hours) and after school activities. I don't have that much time left to play, but I don't mind. I think I spend enough time in quadrant 2 because I am never in such a hurry that I cram everything into the night before the test or something is due. On the other hand, I think I need to spend more time relaxing, especially when it's winter break now.

Family Reflections:

Get everyone in the family to categorize into the Time Matrix the time they spent during the last couple of days. How can you each spend more time in Quadrant II?

I think everybody in my family likes to get things done early and beforehand, so we won't have to worry when the time comes. No cramming, no nothing. In the end, we won't have to be stressful about not finishing. We don't like to procrastinate, it's just not us. It doesn't feel good relaxing when there's a whole bunch of stuff waiting to be completed. Quadrant 2 is where we are. I guess that's why I'm like that too. The good old genetics! Woot!

LESSON 16: Roles and Goals

Roles

Goals

student

to be organized, always stay on top of things, and be envolved in all aspects of school life

daughter

spend quality time with my family and help them out

athlete

practice, practice, practice

granddaughter

visit grandparents often in China

cousin

have fun and keep in touch

friend

help friends and always be by their side

Family Reflections:

Have every family member choose one role that relates to your family (e.g.., son, sister, father); set a goal that will have a positive impact in that relationship.

Roles

Goals

Father

Cook!!!

City of Vancouver employee

Work for city and help the public

Daughter

Spend quality time with my family

LESSON 17: Big Rock Planning

Fill in the following column with a list of activities.

List your five most important activities that you do in a typical day.

Chinese School

Homework

Drawing Class

Blogging

Homework

Exercising

Blogging

Reading

Projects

Mr.Sale’s forum

Studying

Playing DS

Reading

Watching TV

Baking

Exercising

Mr.Sale’s forum

Family Reflections:

Your family is a priority! Break open your schedules as a family and plan some quality time together.

Yup, we do that every weekend. Hehe!

L E S S O N 1 8 : Win-Win Thinking

Read the following situations and decide who wins and who loses.

1. Kevin and Terry are suspended for fighting in class.

Kevin: Lose Terry: Lose

2. Patti wants to take the car to pick up her friends for a game. Patti's mom needs the car to pick up groceries and the repaired TV set. Patti ends up taking the car.

Patti: Win Patti's mom: Lose

3. Brad wants to go watch a movie with Jill. Jill wants to hang out with Brad but wants to go for dinner. They decide to rent a movie and get take-out.

Brad: Win Jill: Win

4. Sylvesta, a junior, just won the Basketball MVP award for the year. Mikey, a senior, is ripped because he thought he was a shoo-in for the award. The next day Mikey starts a false rumor about Sylvesta's training methods.

Mikey: Lose Sylvesta: Lose

5. Jeremy sees Sonny is close to putting the final touches on his rebuilt carburetor in shop class. A minute later, Jeremy finds himself "accidentally pushed" into Sonny's work station. After apologizing and helping Sonny pick up the pieces, Jeremy goes back to his near-finished project.

Jeremy: Win Sonny: Lose

Family Reflections:

Choose one relationship in your immediate (sister, mother, etc..) or extended (uncle, cousin, etc..) family and identify the attitude of interaction under which you operate.

My cousins in Seattle and I: often win-win attitude, sometimes lose-win attitude (I let them have what they want first)

Lesson 19

No extension.

Family Reflections:

How can you help each other continue to think and practice win-win?

Remind each other when we are not thinking or doing win-win. We will always think about helping each other and cooperating as a team. This way, it's not only one person that's going to be successful, but all of us. We should give each other assistance to reach our goals. Never think of things as a competition! Whatever we do, we will think that if we accomplish something, we should help others to achieve their goals too. The number one thing is that we should be nice and respectful to each other all the time. Think win-win!

L E S S O N 2 0: Win-Win Agreements

Win-Win Agreement Form

Project/task:It's a hot summer day. Tim and Jim (twins) only got enough money from their mother to buy one popsicle. Now they are fighting over the popsicle.

Party 1:Tim wants the popsicle
Party 2:Jim also wants the popsicle

1. What are the desired results?
For Tim and Jim to both get a share of the popsicle. (Neither of them is letting go of the stick)

2. What are the available resources?
Their mother(who's just watching) and cutting materials

3. What are the guidelines?
The boys are still fighting and it's a hot day, so the popsicle is melting. There's a chance of the popsicle falling or the whole popsicle melted. In both of these situations, neither of them will get to have any.

4. How will progress be seen? accountability?
If their mother tells the boys that if the popsicle is cut in half, they will each get some.

5. What are the consequences/ benefits if completed or not?
The benefit is that Tim and Jim will both end up getting an even share of the popsicle instead of fighting and having a chance that the popsicle will drop and no one will be able to have some.

Family Reflections:

Are there any situations at home that could benefit or be guided more clearly by drawing up a win-win agreement?

Nope, not really. We are a family, so we care for each other and want everything we do to be win-win. Once in a while there might be a win-lose, but that happens very rarely. What families do is to look out for each other and give assistance in anyway they can. Every family member wants the others to succeed too and reach their goals to be the best. Family is all about loving, caring, sharing, and achieving. Isn't it? As families, don't we already want everything to be the result of win-win situations?

Lesson 21

No extension this week.

Family Reflections:

As a family, do you sometimes find yourselves not listening to each other? Does your family use some of the same inattentive listening styles that you saw on the video?

Rarely. We share with each other things that have happened throughout the day. We tend to get into a habit of taking turns. When we are having a bad day or become very annoyed with something, that is the only time we ignore each other. By the way, that doesn't happen very often. We will try our best to make it never happen, so we will be a family with no "not-listening" problems.